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The Prenuptial Agreement in Israel – a Contract of Marriage

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Last Updated on December 10, 2021

A Prenup is More Romantic Than a Wedding

By Adv. Jay Hait

Mazel Tov! You’re engaged! The search for your soulmate is over. You and your fiancé are flying high on love, trust and the promise of your shared future. The plans for your special day are coming together. You’ve chosen a venue, picked the flowers and decided on the cuisine. But what is an even greater expression of love between you and your fiancé than all these carefully made plans? A prenup is more romantic than the wedding! Because it means you’ve decided to face the most challenging parts of life, together.

The Most Significant Legal Contract of Your Life

We enter into legal contracts all the time. When you buy a house there is endless paperwork. You’re signing purchasing documents, mortgages, and statements attesting to your understanding of what you’re committing to. Opening a bank account means signing volumes of text that you probably don’t even read. Even setting up a cell phone plan is a long drawn-out process, overflowing with fine print.

But a marriage contract becomes official with one quick signature. A Jewish couple in Israel is only required to sign one document (the Ketubah), written in a language they don’t speak (Aramaic), detailing directives they often don’t understand, or think are irrelevant. There are no mandatory manuals for marriage. No volumes of fine print. No proof needed that you understand what you’re signing. Smart couples will choose to attend marriage preparation workshops and read some of the thousands of books on the subject. Jewish resources abound, to help new couples form a strong and lasting emotional bond.

Where is the legal guidance? Many couples are completely unaware that they’re entering into the most significant legal contract of their lives. Money worries are one of the biggest reasons for marriages ending. So, talking about your finances is an extremely important conversation to have before the wedding. There are huge benefits to speaking openly about money before you begin your lives together. Being honest and clear will help you plan resolutions for the inevitable conflicts that come up throughout life.

The discussions during a prenup will answer the hard questions. Does an asset that you bring into the marriage become jointly owned after the wedding? Are you responsible for the debts the other already has? How do you divide the assets if, G-d Forbid, your marriage ends?

Rami & Avital’s Sad Story

Rami* and Avital* (*not their real names) were married for 35 years. Unfortunately, their relationship had been falling apart for years and after counselling, they decided to get a divorce. They had raised their children together in the apartment they shared for the duration of their marriage. And over the course of their lives they jointly invested money for repairs and improvements.

Israeli law dictates certain circumstances when ownership of an asset will be attributed to only one spouse. And consequently, when a couple ends their marriage, the asset would not be subject to a 50/50 split in the divorce settlement. So, when Rami brought a suit for half the value of the apartment, Avital wasn’t worried. Her parents had purchased it for her before she married him and had put it in her name only. She argued in court that the home was not marital property. She brought all the documents in her name only.

But the judge in this case ruled on the two reasons Avital could not consider the apartment her asset exclusively. He said the home a family lives in is the crux of the partnership between the two spouses. And the fact that they each contributed to the apartment’s repairs and upkeep during their lives together, further solidified that partnership. In regard to an asset acquired before marriage, the onus was on Avital to prove she had notified Rami in advance of her intention to retain exclusive ownership of the apartment. Unfortunately, she hadn’t done that. And previous to the divorce, the subject was never broached. So, with no prenup, and the history of each contributing to the home’s maintenance, the judge ruled it would be considered a shared asset and subject to equitable distribution.

Avital was heartbroken. The gift she had received from her beloved parents, who intended to make her life easier, would now have to be divided with her soon to be ex-husband. She was forced to sell her home, split the sale price with Rami and try to find a place to live that she could afford.

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Prenup – A Kiss of Death or An Act of Love?

You’re excited about your future together. You and your fiancé are both good, smart people. You’re in love and you would do anything to make your new partner happy. The two of you are still getting to know each other but you share a desire to build a solid and trusting foundation.

Now, I know. You’re asking yourself, is it really true that a prenup is more romantic than a wedding? The last thing you want to do is sit down and write a legal document designating exclusive ownership of the assets you’re bringing into the marriage. Or deciding how you would divide anything you acquired during your years together, in the case of divorce. Talking about it might mean you think it could happen. And you’re sure it won’t. And you may be right.

But what if I told you there is a 30% chance that when you leave your house tomorrow morning, lightning will strike and a tree will fall on you. You might think twice about walking out the door. Or at the very least you’ll look up and wonder how to protect yourself. The overall divorce rate in Israel hovers around 30%. So entering into marriage takes forethought and planning.

A prenup will help you define fairness at the beginning of your relationship while you’re in love and caring for each other’s needs. It’s an act of love to give the person you love, what they deserve and need.

A prenup forces you to think ahead and plan. To have the ‘money’ conversation. To share very important things about yourself and learn more about your partner. You’ll each have to disclose all your financial details: bank accounts; inheritances; debts; trust funds; property. In the process of detailing your assets and liabilities you’ll have an opportunity to discuss how you want to deal with the conflicts that all happily married couples have. It’s good planning to learn how to disagree before you’re in the middle of an argument.

And if your marriage ends, G-d Forbid, you won’t be deciding on the division of assets in the middle of a divorce. People always think they’ll be calm and caring but their vindictive feelings surprise them. One’s definition of ‘equitable’ at the end of a marriage may be completely opposite to that of their spouse’s.

How Do You Make a Prenup?

A prenup is a financial contract two people make before their wedding. They can also make a postnup if they are already married or living together in a common law relationship. Both include (among other things) the division of assets and liabilities during the marriage and in the case of divorce. For example, will each party exclusively own the assets (property, stocks, pensions, inheritance) and liabilities (debts, loans etc.) they had before the marriage or will they share them with each other?

  • It must be a written agreement.
  • The parties must enter into it voluntarily. No coercion.
  • Both parties need to fully disclose their financial assets, debts, inheritance, property etc., before signing. If either fails to do this, the prenup could be invalid.
  • The agreement must be fair and equitable in the eyes of the court or the judge may reject it.
  • Both parties need to sign the document, in front of a judge or have it notarized.
  • The text must include all the legal requirements.

You might want to think about adding a social media clause. This states that neither one of you can post videos and pictures you’ve taken during your marriage without permission from the other. There will be punitive damages if they are.

If you’re entering into a second marriage there are so many financial aspects of your previous lives you have to address, especially if you both have children.

Your attorney will handle the discussions and negotiations between you and your partner. He or she will draft the agreement itself, making sure to prepare it according to all the legal specifications. And then he or she will accompany you both to the court appearance for signing. You could do this in front of a notary but I always recommend that a judge officiate it in the Family court. In Israel the two legal systems often don’t work together. Take the extra steps to make your prenup air tight in case someone challenges it down the road.

The Halachic (Jewish Law) Prenup

An agunah is (literally) a chained woman whose husband has refused to give her a Get or Jewish divorce. This prevents her from marrying anyone else and having children. An agun, is a man whose wife refuses to accept a Get. It’s emotionally just as damaging although much less restrictive. Rabbi Mordechai Willig developed the Halachic Prenup more than 25 years ago to address these problems. The Tzohar organization in Israel has a complete guide for couples who wish to sign a halachic agreement.  

It’s important to note that the Halachic prenup only covers the issue of agunot and agunim. It doesn’t address asset division at all. So, a couple must go through the Family court to manage the financial side of their prenup.

A Prenup is More Romantic Than a Wedding

I realize people don’t like to make financial agreements at the outset of a marriage. But doing so, demonstrates your love and respect for each other by showing your intention in writing, never to hurt one another.

So, a prenup is more romantic than a wedding. Because it means you’ve decided to face the most challenging parts of life, together.

Learn these Hebrew words

EnglishTransliterationHebrew
Halachnic prenuptial agreementHesken Kavod Hadadi - Halachtiהסכם כבוד הדדי - הלכתי
Prenuptial agreement
(civil)
Heskem Trom Nisuin - Ezrachiהסכם טרום נישואין - אזרחי
Jewish marriage contractKetubaכתובה
Jewish lawHalachaהלכה
Jewish divorceGetגט
Spouse who is refused a GetAgun/Agunaעגונה
MarriageNisuinנישואין
DivorceGirushinגירושין

 

 

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