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Weekly Torah Portion: Parshat Hashavua Nitzavim

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Parshat Hashavua NITZAVIM

Contributed by Rabbi Nissim Mordechai Makor

Rav Nissim Mordechai MakorParshat Hashavua Nitzavim in a nutshell: The Parshah includes some of the most fundamental principles of the Jewish faith: the unit of Israel, future redemption, the practicality of the Torah and freedom of choice.

As we enter the holiday of Rosh Hashanah, we should be thinking about the awesomeness of this Day of Judgment, and how the outcome of this day will determine what kind of year we will have.  And yet, we see in Shulhan Aruch and in the later commentaries that we are supposed to approach this day with a feeling of joy and confidence.  We are instructed to dress in fine clothes and to have festive meals.  Even some of our tunes in the selihot that we’ve been saying for the past month might seem a little too cheerful for the mood that we would expect for such a crucial day like this. 

To answer this seeming contradiction, our Sages explain that when we contemplate the judgment that is facing us, we need to do teshubah, and then we can enter the day with a feeling of security that Hashem, in His infinite mercy, will judge us favorably.

There is a commentary on the Shulhan Aruch called Hochmat Shelomo (583:1), who gives a beautiful insight into the procedure of the night of Rosh Hashanah.  As we know, we eat the simanim (apples in honey, leek, swiss chard, etc.) and recite a Yehi Rason before we eat each one.  Most of us generally view the Yehi Rason as a prayer in which we request that Hashem should makes things work out in our favor.  However the Hochmat Shelomo says that this is not a prayer at all.  Rather we are making a declaration that we have emunah and bitahon that things will in fact turn out well.  He explains that by expressing our trust in Hashem, even if chas v’shalom there would be a decree on a person, just by having this total trust in Hashem the person can change the decree to good!  According to this, when we say Yehi Rason, we are in effect saying “It will be so”!

The Gemara teaches that the prophet Habakuk said that the most fundamental principle of our faith is “Saddik be’emunato yihyeh” – the righteous one will live through his emunah.  When we commit to improve our ways, we can be confident and secure that our merciful Father in Heaven will bless us with a sweet new year.  May we all be blessed in the coming year with berachah  and success in all of our endeavors.

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You are standing today, all of you…from the hewer of your wood to the drawer of your water. (29:9,10)

The prefix mem, followed by the word ad, to, denotes a contrast between two subjects, as in, “from the smallest to the largest” or “from the bottom of his feet to the top of his head.” Likewise, “from the hewer of your wood to the drawer of your water” denotes two ends of a spectrum. Horav Shlomo Yosef Zevin, zl, explains this contrast as applying to two disparate approaches to teshuvah, repentance/return: from below to above and vice versa. This may be explained in the following manner: A person is acutely aware of the insignificance of his puny life, the various thoughts and actions in which he is involved. When he realizes the foolishness for which he wastes his life, he will become appalled, remorseful and filled with regret. He will be broken-hearted over the things – both evil and foolish – that he has committed. This attitude will motivate him to return to a life of commitment, a life of enthusiasm for Torah and mitzvos, a life of serving the Almighty.

For some people, the negative approach does not seem to work. On the contrary, when one feels “down,” he finds it difficult to ascend, to rise up and elevate himself to the proper spiritual plateau. Giving up on oneself is so much easier than trudging uphill, overcoming the many obstacles that stand in the way. This individual needs to take an aggressive, more positive, approach. If he has been lax in davening attendance, he should be determined to come ten minutes early for davening. If he would normally study one daf, page, of Talmud daily, he should now study two pages. He should ignore his own inconsequence and instead focus on the positive in order to do more.

Rav Zevin cites the Zohar HaKadosh concerning the pasuk in Sefer Tehilllim 51:19: Lev nishbar v’nidkeh, Elokim lo sivzeh, “A heart broken and humbled, O G-d, You will not despise.” The Zohar asks, “What is done to a piece of wood which will not catch fire? One cracks it open, and it can then be kindled.” A block of wood that is so hard that the flames cannot penetrate and set it afire must be split, so that the fire will be able to kindle it from the inside. Likewise, one who is so tough and hardened that the fire of his neshamah, soul, cannot set him aflame with a passion to return and serve the Almighty should resort to “cracking” himself open.” He should introspect and engage in self-rebuke until he penetrates his heart, thus allowing the glow of the neshamah to burn passionately.

There is an individual, however, for whom the broken-hearted approach does not work. He either cannot handle the introspection, or he is simply disinterested in self-rebuke and anything that means putting him down. It is just not his personality. He should take the approach to which the Navi Yeshayah 55:1 alludes, Hoi kol tzamei lechu la’mayim, “Ho, everyone that is thirsty, go to the water.” Water has the incredible ability to quench thirst and also to dissolve even the most hardened materials. In Sefer Iyov 14:19, we find, Avanim shachaku mayim, “Stones are worn away by water.” The Navi Yechezkel 36:26, says, V’hasirosi es lev ha’even mibsarchem, “I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh.” The heart of stone is neutralized through the Torah, which is compared to water. In this approach, we ignore the individual’s self-generated low self-esteem. The individual who cannot handle eradicating the darkness by breaking down the door that blocks his light takes the road by which he suffuses himself with so much light that it eventually overpowers the darkness. In other words, one either finds a way to bring out the light from within or he floods the area with an abundance of light.

This is what it meant by the hewer of the wood: the individual who breaks through the hard wood, allowing for the fire to penetrate and burn; while the drawer of water, suffuses the darkness with enough light to overpower it. There are two disparate and perhaps extreme measures which work for different types of people, in varied situations. They both have one goal: returning to Hashem.


And all the nations will say… and He cast them to another land, as this very day! (29:23,27)

Harav Chaim Shaul Kaufman, zl, Rosh Yeshivas Tiferet Yaakov (London) gleans from this statement the stark difference between the attitude of the gentile during a period of Heavenly concealment and the Jewish perspective on adversity. The gentile “believes” in G-d (according to his limited understanding of this term). When a moment of hester panim, Divine concealment, occurs in his life, he feels that G-d has forsaken him, cast him off (perhaps even deservedly) to the point that, whatever adversity and challenge he confronts, it will not provide a lesson for him from which he can learn and change. Whatever happens in his life is the result of G-d’s rejection of him.

Not so, the Jewish outlook on travail. We sinned; we are being punished. Hashem is pushing us away, but, at all times, He is in charge; He is pushing; He is calling the shots, because He wants us to improve, so that He can soon welcome us back home. We are neither thrown away, nor does Hashem separate Himself from us. This contrast is apparent from the vernacular of the pasuk which describes the comments/observations made by the gentile nation concerning our banishment from our homeland.

They say, “He cast them to another land.” When someone is cast away, a separation occurs between the one who casts and his subject. They are no longer together. When someone is pushed, however, he is merely moved by the individual who is pushing him, but they are moving together! The goyim think that Hashem has flung us away. We are no longer in contact with Him. He wants nothing to do with us. How foolish! Does a father ever throw away his son? The dysfunctional dogma of Christianity is responsible for their inability to comprehend the very basics of our relationship with Hashem. He is our Father, and we are His children. That will never change. This is why, in 30:1, the Torah writes: “When Hashem, your G-d, has dispersed you.” Hidichacha, dispersed/pushed away, means: We acknowledge that we are not in Hashem’s good graces, and, as a result, we have been exiled from our Land, but He came with us! At no time are we separated from Hashem. Thus, when we are confronted with misfortune, we understand that Hashem is speaking to us, hoping that we will listen and come back home.

For this mitzvah… it is not hidden from you and it is not distant. (30:11)

The Ramban writes that “this mitzvah” refers to the mitzvah of teshuvah, repentance. The sinner conjures up a wealth of lame excuses for not repenting. For the most part, the primary hurdle is believing that one can successfully navigate the teshuvah process and return to pre-sin status – both in the eyes of the community and in the eyes of the sinner. The offender has convinced himself that he has gone too far, offended too many, hurt so many close family and friends, so why bother?

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We are at the gates of Rosh Hashanah, and each and every one of us has his own pekel, bundle, of aveirot, sins, which we have pushed to the back burner. Perhaps now would be an appropriate time to rethink our excuses. Teshuvah means return, through which we return to Hashem. Every sin distances us from Hashem. The process of teshuvah is our about-face; we turn around and face Hashem. We are not any closer than we were before, but at least we have altered our direction.


The Pearls of Life quote HaRav Noach Isaac Oelbaum who teaches us that Parashas Nitzabim is always read before Rosh HaShanah because it is the parashah of teshuvah. Generally, the week of Parashas Nitzavim is when we rise early for Selichot. The sefarim [holy books] point out that this is a time [You are standing], getting up early to do teshuvah. It is time to wake up and repent. The Pupa Rav zt’l explained as follows: The purpose of saying Selichot is to create a tremendous hisorerus [spiritual awakening] before the Yom Hadin in the proper frame of mind. It helps us to re-evaluate, rethink, and to change. When a Jew does a mitzvah, when he does something positive, he has not merely performed a mitzvah for himself; he has elevated the entire Klal Yisrael. On Rosh Hashanah everyone has the responsibility not just to themselves and their family but for the entire Nation of Israel.  One must feel that what is going to happen to the nation is literally dependent on me. The actions of just one person CAN AFFECT THE ENTIRE NATION. Yeshiva Pirchei Shoshanim

Shabbat Shalom & Tizku l’shanim

Five Napkin Folding Ideas

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5 napkin folding ideas to WOW your guests this holiday season.

 

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No need to spend extra money on new tableware – just reach into grandma’s linen closest and borrow her fabric napkins (paper napkins work just as well). Watch the video to learn 5 ways of implementing napkin origami.  It’s quick and really easy and you can make your place settings look extra special for the upcoming holidays.  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1N6UzwejIfs

 

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Rosh HaShanah: Tzaddikim, Reshaim & Beinonim

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Tzadikim, Resha’im & Beinonim.

Adapted from the Ta’amei ha’Minhagim & contributed by Rav Nissim Makor

rav makor 220x220The Gemara in Rosh Hashanah, discussing the three Books that are open before Hashem on Rosh Hashanah, speaks of the Book of Tzadikim (who are written and sealed immediately for life), the Book of Resha’im (who are written and sealed immediately for death), and the Book of Beinonim (who hang in the balance until Yom-Kipur, when their fate is sealed, depending on whether they earned the necessary merits by then or not.

This Gemara, explains the Tanya, citing R. Oshaya, cannot be referring to regular Tzadikim and Resha’im, as we will find in the forthcoming year many Tzadikim who will die and many Resha’im, who will live. The Tzadik that the Gemara is talking about must therefore be someone who has won his lawsuit in the Heavenly Court (for a variety of reasons that do not necessarily reflect his true title). And by the same token, the Rasha (who may in real terms be a total Tzadik) is so called because, for one of numerous reasons, he came out of the Heavenly Court guilty. Indeed, we find this concept in the Torah, which writes in Ki Seitzei (25:2) “And they shall declare the righteous man righteous and the wicked man wicked”, even though in real terms, either litigant may belong to any of the three above categories.

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(Seen from another angle, a Tzadik in this context may well be a not-so-big-Tzadik whose allotted number of years in this world have not yet come to an end (and who will therefore need to have perpetuated many sins to forfeit his remaining time on earth); and by the same token, a Rasha may be a veritable Tzadik, whose allotted time is up [and who will require great merits to extend his stay here]).

Strive to be a Beinoni. Master your Yetzer HaRa and control the impulses.

L’Shana Tova! May You, All of My Brothers and Sisters, be Inscribed and Sealed for another Year of Life… Now and always!

With Torah Blessings

Rabbi Nissim Makor.

September 2018 Israel Rail Updates

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Israel Rail Updates for September 2018

ISRAEL RAILWAYS september 2018 UPDATES

From Sunday to Thursday between 20:00 to 05:00 (morning), Modi’in Station will be closed.

A free shuttle service will be available:

  • From Modi’in Central Station, via Pa’atai Modi’in to Ben Gurion International Airport Station, at these times:

19:48, 20:20, 21:20, 22:20 and 23:20.

  • From Ben Gurion International Airport Station, via Pa’atai Modi’in to Modi’in Central Station, at these times:

9:55, 20:25, 20:55, 22:05, 23:05 and 00:15

Commencing 15.9.18 changes will be made to the Nahariya – Be’er Sheva line

Be’er Sheva – Nahariya line: The line will be shortened and will operate between Herziliya and Be’er Sheva Central station in both directions.

In addition, the following changes will be implemented:
  • A new stop has been added for trains on Sunday to Thursday at the Kiriyat Hayim station and Haifa Hotzot HaMifratz station.
  • A train has been added on Sundays at 07:03 from the Haifa HaShmona Central Station to Tel Aviv HaHagana station.
  • A train has been added on Sundays at 05:00 from Tel Aviv HaHagana Station to Haifa HaShmona Central station.
  • Bet Shemesh – Jerusalem Malcha line: trains will run once every two hours. On Friday’s and after the Sabbath (Saturday evening), trains will run once per hour.
  • The Emek line: Extended night train services between Bet She’an station and Haifa HaShmona Central station will continue throughout September and the High Holy Days in both directions.
  • Hadera station: Trains on the Carmiel – Be’er Sheva line will stop and Hadera West station.
Trains have been added to the new timetable:
  • Sundays at 09:45 from Be’er Sheva North station to Ra’anana West station.
  • Sundays through Thursdays at 23:34 from Ashkelon station to Rehovot station.
  • Between Haifa HaMifratz Central station and Carmiel station.
  • Trains leaving Ra’anana West station and traveling south on Sundays at 05:44 and 07:14 will continue their journey to Be’er Sheva Central station.
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  • The train from Nahariya station departing at 06:05 to Be’er Sheva, will end its journey at Be’er Sheva North station instead of at Be’er Sheva Central station. Shuttle services to the training bases (BaHadim) will operated from Be’er Sheva North station.

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Weekly Torah Portion: Parshat Hashavua KI TAVO

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Parshat Hashavua KI TAVO.

Contributed by. Rav Nissim Mordechai Makor

parshat hashavua ki tavo rav makor 220x220Ki Tavo is the 50th weekly Torah portion (פָּרָשָׁה‬, parashah) in the annual Jewish cycle of Torah reading and the seventh in the Book of Deuteronomy.  In a nutshell Parshat Hashavua Ki Tavo tells of the ceremony of the first fruits (בִּכּוּרִים‬, bikkurim), tithes, and the blessings from observance and curses from violation of the law.

For you Hashem

Bikkurim is a mitzva (commandment) that is applicable when the Jewish people are settled in Eretz Yisroel (the Land of Israel). This mitzva entails bringing the first fruits of one’s field to the Kohen (priest) in the Mikdash (sanctuary).

It is remarkable that the Torah commands the farmer to give away to the Kohen his very first fruits – fruits which give him special joy and pride. After all, it makes no difference to the Kohen if he receives the farmer’s first fruits or his second fruits. Why then does the Torah command the grower to take fruit that is dear to him and give it to a recipient who would just as soon receive any other fruit?

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It is appropriate that as one enjoys the bounty of his harvest, he should bear in mind that all the blessings that he enjoys come from Hashem. By bringing Bikkurim, one demonstrates and internalizes this by celebrating his new harvest with the real owner of his fields – Hashem. So to speak, by bringing Bikkurim to the Mikdash one “shares” the joy of the first fruits with Hashem.

We can now understand why Bikkurim had to be brought from the first fruits. While the Kohanim had the privilege of partaking of these fruits, the focus of Bikkurim was to heighten the people’s awareness of Hashem’s role in their lives. The benefit was for the giver not the recipient.

(Darash Moshe)


True Nationhood

“Hayom Hazeh Nihyayso L’om LaHashem Elokecha” “This day you became a nation for Hashem, your G-d”

This verse refers to the time that the Jews were in the desert, before they actually entered Eretz Yisroel (the land of Israel). What was it that made the Jews into a nation if they did not yet have a common homeland? Now, this verse follows the account of a covenant that the Jews made with Hashem. It bound them to keep the laws of the Torah. Thus, the Torah way of life is the bond that unites all Jews. Torah is the reason that the Jews were able to preserve a strong national identity throughout the millennia in exile – despite their lack of a homeland.

(R’ S. R. Hirsch)

Cursed

“Cursed is one who will not uphold the words of this Torah, to perform them.”  (Debarim 27:26)

This pasuk is the last of a series of curses that were said on Har Gerizim and Har Eival when Bnei Yisrael entered the land.  The Rabbis ask: What does it mean to uphold the Torah?  They explain that this is referring to one who has the ability to uphold and strengthen the observance of the Torah and mitzvot by those who are neglecting it.  Since we are all guarantors one for another, even someone who is fulfilling the entire Torah but fails to encourage others to keep the mitzvot is included in this statement.  The Gemara, however, teaches that each of the twelve curses listed in the parashah was preceded by a parallel blessing.  So before this curse was stated, they said “Blessed is one who upholds the words of the Torah.”  This means that anyone who succeeds in encouraging others to follow the Torah will be blessed.

This is something that does not just apply to the Rabbis and teachers.  Hashem has given abilities to each and every one of us to raise the level of observance and Torah learning in others.  If someone was blessed with wealth, he has the opportunity to support Torah institutions.  One who was blessed with wisdom can teach others.  Someone who has management skills can set up organizations to help others in many different ways.  And every one of us can serve as a role model for others, especially for our children.  By living our lives according to the standards of the Torah, others will see the beauty of the misvot and be inspired to grow as well.  May we succeed in upholding the standards of the Torah, in ourselves and in others, and thereby enjoy the blessing that was declared by the entire nation when they entered the land of Israel.

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Pearls of Life

HaRav Yitzchok Scheiner enlightens the Pearls of Life telling us that in the future Hakadosh Baruch Hu will judge all of us: What did we make of ourselves? And even discounting the supernatural abilities hidden within us, how many of us ever fulfill our natural potential! Every person has hidden strengths, potential he hasn’t tapped into. We all have the ability to become much greater than we are now.  We all have excuses. One person will say he didn’t have good health. Another will say he had parnassah worries. There is an unlimited amount of excuses one can give for not reaching his potential. But all of the nation of Israel’s great Rabbi’s had these same issues, and they became great despite their challenges and they learned despite their hardships.  Woe to us from the Day of Judgment; Woe to us from the Day of Rebuke. A man once approached the Steipler. “I have problems at home and it is very difficult for me to learn. What is going to be with me?” The Steipler told him, “You can’t pay attention to the distractions. If I would have focused on my problems, I would never have made anything of myself. I didn’t pay attention to any outside issues when I was learning. I blocked it all out, as much as I humbly could.” That is what we all must do. We all to work on improving ourselves slowly, one percent at a time. No more excuses. Work on yourself to reach your full potential, so when the Day of Judgment comes, you won’t need excuses, and you will be proud of what you accomplished.

Yeshiva Pirchei Shoshanim

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SHABBAT SHALOM!

Weekly Torah Portion: Parshat HaShavua Ki-Teitze

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Parshat HaShavua KI-TEITZE

By: Rabbi Nissim Mordechai Makor

rav makor 220x220“Ki sivneh bayis chadash ve’asisa maakeh le’gagecha, ve’lo sasim damim be’baisecha ki yipol hanofel mimenu.” – “When you build a new house, create a fence around its roof, for blood may befall on your house lest someone falls from your roof.” Deuteronomy 22:8

The Jew is referred to as “Adam” or man in the Torah. When he sins, he splits this word “adam” into aleph and “dam,” blood. Chazal teach that Adam brought blood and death into the world because by sinning, he shore off the aleph from his name, leaving blood in its wake. The shape of the letter aleph is that of the Hebrew letters vav with two attached yudim; therefore the aleph shares the same gematria as the word “gagecha,” your roof (26). When one repents properly it is very similar to him building a new house because his body and soul are considered newly formed. And much as a roof protects a physical house, one’s mind protects his “spiritual house.” To summarize, the knowledge of one’s sins and awareness of Hashem are excellent deterrents to sinning. Both the aleph and the word gagecha share the same gematria as the four letter name for Hashem, the tetragrammaton. Man must therefore strive not to sin because sinning separates the aleph from adam which brings death (sin) into the world and removes himself from his Maker.

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Furthermore, there are four traits that are termed “mayim” (water) that a baal teshuvah must keep himself distant from. These traits are arrogance, anger, argumentativeness and lust. Arrogance is called water because the verse states the waters on high which separate. Argumentation stands for the waters of argument. The third, anger, is represented in the Book of Nahum as waters of anger and lust is symbolized by water as Proverbs teaches that stolen waters are sweet. When we return to Hashem properly, we recreate ourselves. To armor ourselves, we are enjoined not to place “damim” in our house. “Damim” is the combination of dalet and the word mayim, “four waters.” This verse subtly teaches us to avoid those four character traits which may distance ourselves from Hashem.


A man marries a woman and lives with her. If she does not please him, or he has evidence of sexual misconduct on her part, then he shall write her a bill of divorce… (24:1, translation follows Gittin 90a).

Abarbanel considers the fundamental matter: why does a man marry at all? No divorce can take place without marriage.

He explains that a man needs a successful and productive marital relationship for flourishing in livelihood, social status, physical fulfillment, spiritual development, and children. All that is without, of course, negating her position and feelings or the importance of his contributing to the relationship.

Abarbanel proposes that the ideal reality forms part of the very opening of the Torah:

Adam said: “[She is] a bone from my bones, and flesh from my flesh” (Gen. 2:23).

In other words, man and woman are one; they are part of each other. Not two grown-ups of opposite gender staying under the same roof. In sharp contrast to the Gentile practice in his day that condemned the mismatched couple to live in perpetual misery, Abarbanel explains that the Torah presents the opportunity to end the marriage in the spirit of:  “It is better to live on the corner of a roof, than with a wife who is a source of discord” (Proverbs 25:24). The husband would have to go through the painstaking procedure of “writing a bill of divorce” (24:1) which would give him plenty of time to reflect on whether he was doing the right thing before deciding on the finality of “placing it into her hand” (ibid), thereby severing the relationship.

Like the merging of two similar plants or the transplant of an organ from one human to another, the couple have to be potentially compatible or the marriage will just not “take”. The year between engagement and marriage, explains Abarbanel following the custom of his day, is a window for exploring whether there is enough common ground for each to grow into the other when eventually united as a couple. This reduces, but does not eliminate uncertainties that may make the relationship non-functional.

Thus Abarbanel explains that “if she does not please him”, he will not flourish spiritually, economically, and in his role in the family. He will come to hate his wife: not because she is a bad person, but because she turned out to be unsuitable for him. His life cannot progress and develop; no “flesh from my flesh” merger is possible. The marriage did not “take”. Divorce is the best course in such a situation.
The idea can be extended. Deciding not to divorce when it is best to do so and persisting in a dysfunctional marriage can create the situation at the beginning of the parasha where a man’s marital situation includes a “hated woman” (21:15). The text follows that with the ben soreh u-moreh, the wayward and rebellious son. Rashi’s explains the ordering to imply that it is through hatred between the parents that a child may behave in such a way…

Jacob Solomon

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“An Amonite or Moabite shall not enter the congregation of Hashem…Because of the fact that they did not greet you with bread and water…and because they hired Bilaam …to curse you.”

The Torah clearly presents two reasons for banning an Amonite or a Moabite from marrying a Jew.  Rashi, however, cites only their procuring Bilaam to effect our spiritual destruction as grounds for their exclusion.  Why does Rashi omit their lack of character refinement as motive for barring them from Klal Yisrael?  Rav Elyakim Schlesinger responds to this question by first addressing a similar question regarding the death of Lot’s wife.

When Lot and his family were escaping the inferno which destroyed Sedom, his wife disobeyed the command not to look back.  Consequently, she was turned into a pillar of salt.  Rashi explains that her punishment was specific; it was a direct result of her refusal to serve salt, a simple condiment, to her guests.  Such a punishment seems overly harsh and inconsistent with the transgression.  Rav Schlesinger suggests that her insensitive treatment of her guests was not the reason for her death.  Every transgression has a specific retribution consistent to the degree of its gravity.

The performance of certain mitzvot and various good deeds serve as a safeguard against punishment.  Thus, retribution can be averted through the earned merit of mitzvot.  Lot’s wife was destined to perish and be transformed into a pillar of salt because of her violation of the angel’s command.  Had she had the merit of treating her guests decently by serving them properly, being sensitive to their simple needs, she would have been spared punishment.  Her lack of sensitivity to others sealed her fate, but was not the actual rationale for her punishment.

Similarly, the Amonite and Moabite people deserved severe sanctions as a result of their attempts to catalyze the spiritual downfall of our people.  Had they shown some human decency when we were in need, they might have been spared.  Their continued lack of character refinement sealed their ultimate doom.

We may derive from here that one should be meticulous in observing all mitzvot regardless of their apparent level of significance.  We do not know by virtue of which mitzva or good deed our deserved punishment has been mitigated or even reprieved. (Peninim on the Torah)

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Pearls of Life

The Nesivos Shalom lights the Pearls of Life with the words of the Kubriner Rav, zy’a, who tells us that the time of self-examination is in the JEWISH MONTH OF ELUL. Now is the time to fix things up and do Teshuva [repent], not Rosh Hashana. Rosh Hashana is for the purpose of coronating and proclaiming the kingship of Hashem on every part of us and on everything in the world. The time of teshuva is before that, during the next few weeks, where we can prepare ourselves to be able to come to Hashem and proclaim Him the King over us and King over the whole world. In this month of Elul, we have to think if we acted according to Torah Law, have we followed what Hashem wants us to do. All this has to be thought about now. When it comes to Rosh Hashana, if we didn’t prepare during Elul it is certainly a bit late. As long as we continue to act like a non-Jew, we are not able to properly have deveikus haShem [attaching to HaShem], to connect to Hakadosh Baruch Hu like we should. If we complete ourselves, if we work on our hearts, our minds and our physical actions and we concentrate on the things that we are supposed to be doing during Elul, then we will be with Hashem. Yeshiva Pirchei Shoshanim adapting the words of Rabbi Yisrael Meir Shapiro.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rosh Hashanah Dvar Torah: Hearing the sound of the Shofar

Reading Time: 3 minutes

Hearing the sound of the Shofar on Rosh HaShanah.

Hearing the sound of the Shofar
Based on Likutey Moharan I, 250
“Know that any type of pain and suffering is only due to lack of daat (awareness). For anyone who has daat and knows that everything happens according to God’s plan has no suffering and feels no pain, ‘for the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away’ (Job 1:21). And even though there is suffering that must be felt… nonetheless, the tribulations are very light and easier to accept when one is clearly aware that everything happens according to Hashem’s plan.”
“If one hears the shofar blasts on Rosh Hashanah from a God-fearing religious person, he will not be afraid of thunder all year long.”
(Likutey Moharan II, 5)
The mitzvah of hearing the voice of the shofar, like all mitzvot, has innumerable reasons. Even the bottom line of each mitzvah is “God said it, we do it,” God does want us to learn the right lessons from each so that are hearts will be open to feeling His presence. Neither God nor we gain by our ignorance of Torah, written or oral, legal or homiletic. It is a disservice and a disgrace, to ourselves and to Judaism, to observe the mitzvot blindly, without considering their lessons. (Of course we have to do them, just not unthinkingly.) But I digress.
The voice of the shofar is many voices. It is crying and it is thunder. It is the voice of the tzaddik, the voice of his teachings. Rosh Hashanah, the anniversary of mankind’s creation, is a day we have to respond to the angels’ protest: “What is man that You think of him?!” (Psalms 8:5). They argued against our creation by saying that we would sin, we would be argumentative. Again we must answer their challenge, their attempt to deny us life.
The thunder of the shofar is meant to remove the crookedness of our heart, the deceit with which we fool others and ourselves. The crying of the shofar is our tears of regret for having turned our backs on God, His Torah and His people for too long. The crying of the shofar is our tears of appreciation for being Jewish; our Jewish breath, our Jewish heartbeat, our Jewish hands; that we eat, breath and think Jewish.
The voice of the shofar is the voice of daat, the voice of the tzaddik’s teachings. The purpose of Creation, the Zohar teaches, is l’ishtamudan lei, to be aware of Him. Each and every teaching and lesson of the tzaddik, of any tzaddik, in the Torah or in the Prophets; in Talmud, Midrash or Zohar; or in post-Talmudic works till today, is meant to instill in us the trepidation and exhilaration that comes with being aware of God, with having daat.
This is the daat that precludes and eases suffering. But only the voice of the shofar sounded by one who is “a God-fearing religious person” can bring us this awareness. If the sound of the shofar comes from one who lacks these criteria, then we will lack the awareness we were meant to have, the awareness that rebuts the charge of the angels, the awareness that eases our suffering.
The voice of the shofar enables us to understand that God has a plan, that what happens to us, as individuals, as a community, as a nation, is not, God forbid, random. The “thunder” of bombs or personal tragedy, may God spare us, will not frighten us away from our spiritual goals. Au contraire! If such things God forbid occur, they will remind us of the daat of the shofar and remove the crookedness of our hearts and move us to tears. We will acknowledge and submit to God’s plan, to His authority and ruler-ship, as we do on Rosh Hashanah.
With thanks to Rav. Nissim Mordechai Makor
As heard and adapted from my Torah Masters
Shana Tova

Elul: The month spent preparing for the High Holidays

Reading Time: 5 minutes

Elul: This is the month spent preparing for Rosh Hashana and the High Holidays.

With grateful thanks to Rabbi Nissim Mordechai Makor

apples and honey

Elul is a very interesting month. Officially it belongs to the year that is finishing, yet it is completely connected to the new year. How is this possible? It is written that from the fifteenth of Av, Heaven begins preparing the chairs for judgement and it is a good time to start doing teshuvah.  Summer is drawing to a close. In the world of nature, especially in the very cold climates, all the animals are very busy at this time getting ready for the upcoming winter. They have to make exact plans for food or otherwise they won’t survive the harsh winter. They take this time very seriously. They know instinctively what to do and how to prepare.  Every animal is seeking to do while there is still time left, because the Master will call. When we say this, we mean that Rosh Hashanah will come around and everybody will have to answer for the last year. We must remember, on Rosh Hashanah we are judged on the situation at that moment. What we did in the last year has brought us to this point. Remember, Elul also includes the whole of the next year.

In nature, obedience is the rule. All of nature stands around Hashem’s throne, each one bringing Hashem the product of it’s labor. No animal or plant would dare to go against it’s nature. Nature has rules and the animals have to follow them. This is a definite.

Only man can be enticed from this set path. Man is casual and inattentive and ignores the seriousness of this time. The animals shiver with fear that Hashem won’t destroy the world.

With free will, man has to choose with his own intellect what is right or wrong. He has the power to go against what is right (nature). This is one of the reasons we start to blow the shofar the beginning of Elul, to wake us up.  Elul is a gift from Hashem. Nobody would dare go into a court case in this physical world without preparing. A persons lawyer would be interviewing witnesses, checking facts etc. Elul is the time for preparation for Rosh Hashanah.  Hashem made it easy for us to do teshuvah in Elul. It says in the writings that in Elul, “the King is in the fields”. What does this mean? During the rest of the year, if a person wants to do teshuvah, he has to go to Hashem. The analogy is the person has to make an appointment with Hashem, go to him and present his case. In Elul it is different. Hashem makes it easy for us and comes to us, “the King is in the fields”. Wherever we are, Hashem is listening and waiting for us every second.

Let’s ask the question, what actually is teshuvah? We say it is repentance but what is repentance? It is very simple. Stop doing the negative thing or things we are doing. It sounds easy but is actually very difficult. To change our nature is the most difficult thing in this world for us to do.

Yoma 86b: “Great is teshuvah, for it brings healing to the world.”

Teshuvah is so far above human comprehension as it is a supernatural concept. It is one of the biggest Chokim. A chok is a law which is very difficult for humans to understand. Some of them are, meat and milk, the red heifer and Shatnez. Why is it a chok? In the physical world if a person is caught by the police doing a serious offense, and he goes to court and tells the judge he is sorry and won’t do it again, the judge will never let him off. In the spiritual world, when we teshuvah,(we are truly sorry for what we have done), Hashem looks into our heart to see if we are serious and not just doing lip service. This is the key to teshuvah, as we can’t hide anything from Hashem. If Hashem decides to give us a second chance, He wipes the slate clean. This is mind boggling to think that we can be forgiven just like that for our sins. This is the reason we cannot comprehend teshuvah. Remember there can be no growth without honesty. Please understand, I have simplified the process.  Also know that Elul includes the whole of the next year. What we do in Elul is going to affect Rosh Hashanah and the whole of next year.

One of the ways the Tzadikkim suggest we should prepare fo Rosh Hashanah is to write two lists, one what we want from Hashem for the new year and one with things we will do for Hashem in the new year. Write down ten things on each list. With the list for Hashem, try to put down things that we have been trying to do for years. Things like, trying to change a bad character trait, to do mitzvot better, to get healthier, go to the gym etc. On the other list put down things you want from Hashem. Things like better parnasah, health, nachat from the children etc.

Think about ways you can achieve your goals. Read the list on Rosh Hashanah and also read it every day. You most probably won’t achieve the ten things for Hashem. It is doubtful if you can achieve half, but if you achieve one or two, guaranteed you will have a good year. It seems like this is kind of childish, but believe me it is a very powerful tool to do teshuvah. If you read it everyday, slowly the things on the list will become achievable goals and you will change.

Elul is the month of perfection. The word for this month in Hebrew is Betula, which means virgin, the same as the English word, Virgo which is connected to virgin, which implies purity. In this month we have the ability to cleanse ourselves of a lot of dirt. Teshuvah is equal to all the mitzvot.

The tikkun of people born in Elul is that they focus on details too much and don’t see the big picture. Virgo’s live in a world of fantasy and because they have the ability see perfection, they have the trait of judgement. They can’t understand why people can’t see things the way they do.

Remember, even though this month is for people born in this month, we all experience these tests during this month. That is the whole idea of the months and astrology. You cannot act the same way every month. Every month has a different energy. Hopefully by knowing how to act in this month, Hashem will have mercy on us and grant us a good month and good year.

It is easy to find faults if you look at things with a microscope. See the big picture. Daven for Massiach. Don’t be fragmented because when you don’t see the big picture, you start to judge, which is the tikkun for Virgo’s. Look for the good in situations.

Moshe was in Heaven during Elul and received atonement for the golden calf. Let’s take Moshe Rabeinu’s example.

Wake up!!!!

Take the example of the animals. Get ready now for the upcoming year. It will help you a great deal on Rosh Hashanah.

Chodesh Tov. Chag Sameach. Shana Tova.

As from Reb Kalman