Tuesday, 20 November 2018

A Shabbat guide for first time guests - what you can expect at a Shabbat dinner.

Shabbat dinner

You've finally been invited to your first Shabbat dinner in Israel.  How exciting, but as a foreigner, and perhaps without Jewish roots, you might be a little anxious.  Here are some tips on what to expect at the Shabbat, Friday evening main meal.

Whether you are at a Shabbat dinner in Brazil, Perth, Rome or Tel Aviv most of the Shabbat customs are similar.  The prayers are identical but Ashkenazi Jews (from Eastern European descent and Sephardi Jews - of Mediterranean and North African descent) may have slightly different customs.

What to wear on Shabbat?

Shabbat is likened to a bride and a queen.  When you are honoring and meeting the queen, you would wear your finest clothing.  So it is for Shabbat. Men will often wear a white shirt and women will wear a special outfit. If you are visiting a religious family, modest dress is expected. For more in-depth information, read our article on traditional Jewish clothing habits

What do we do at a Shabbat dinner?

As you arrive at your hosts they will probably greet you with the traditional saying "Shabbat Shalom" - have a peaceful Shabbat. It is polite to respond with the same greeting.  In many English speaking, Ashkenazi homes, they might say "Good Shabbos" this is an anglicized version of the Yiddish express "A gutte Shabbos". Jewish people have traditional greeting and expressions for different events

The Shabbat table

As your hosts gesture you to the dining table, the first thing that you will notice are two lit candles (or maybe more).  It is customary for a Jewish woman to light at least 2 candles to welcome the Shabbat.  In many homes, an extra candle is often lit for each one of the children.  The candles are blessed earlier in the evening during a special candle lighting ceremony.

On the table you will also see a Challah, a traditionally braided, sweet, white bread loaf.  While all the traditional Sabbath blessings are being said, the Challah will be covered with a decorative cloth.   Try our easy and delicious, challah recipe

On the table, you will also notice, a bottle of red wine.  Not the Beaujolais or Shiraz you might have been hoping for, instead it is a sweet, almost syrupy, red wine.  Grape juice is also popular.

While abroad you might have heard someone say 'Let's have a glass of "Mannuschewitz', They are referring to a glass of sweet, red, Shabbat wine made by this well known manufacturer.

Shabbat dinner etiquette & prayers

Before the Shabbat dinner is served, the man of the house will lead the group in singing some Sabbath welcoming songs; Shalom Aleichem is one and Eshet Chayal (Eng: Woman of Valor) is another prayer which honors the woman of the house.

You will then be asked to stand (a tradition common in most homes) while the man of the house recites the Kiddush - the blessing over the wine..

After the blessing of the wine it is customary to wash ones hands - a small ceremony where water is poured from a jug and poured one hand over the other.  A blessing for "Nitilat Yadayim" - washing the hands - is said by each person.

From this point it is forbidden to talk for a few minutes.  After you have returned to the the table the master if the house will bless the bread and recite a blessing (Heb: bracha) called 'Hamotzi'. He will then break the bread, sprinkle it with salt and pass it around. It is polite to partake of the bread and thereby be blessed for abundance for the upcoming week.  Once you have eaten the bread you may resume talking.

Shabbat prayers

Shabbat dinner menu

Shabbat is a celebration and the Friday night meal is the most important meal of the week. It is a festive meal and families will enjoy their traditional and favorite foods.

Shabbat food rules

If the family you are visiting observe 'Kashrut'; the biblical law which prevents the eating of certain foods and the mixing of dairy and meat based products, you will not be served dairy foods and meat foods during the same meal.  Fruit and vegetables are 'neutral' and can be eaten with dairy products or meat products.

At the end of the Sabbath meal, grace after meals will be recited.

Shabbat rules

There are numerous rules for Shabbat - way too many to discuss here.  We suggest you visit a site like www.aish.com or www.chabad.org for detailed information.

Shabbat times

The Jewish Hebrew calendar is based on the lunar cycle.  Shabbat and all Jewish holidays and festivals are observed from sunset to sunset.

Shabbat candles

Shabbat candles must be lit before sunset. It is a desecration of the Shabbat to light candles after sunset. Shabbat candles are lit 18 minutes before sunset.

Shabbat candle lighting times for this week.

 

Shabbat shalom!! Have a blessed and restful Sabbath.